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eroticcannibal:

Not to be all “social media is evil” and “kids are awful these days” cus social media is a wonderful and most kids are great and all have the potential to be great

But teens on social media are a metric fuck ton more abusive than my generation ever was and it really fucking worries me. They are also way less accountable than we were. If we wanted to be this fucking cruel to people, we had to do it to their face, and there were consequences. Now y’all just run around behaving like brats and going “but i’m a miiiiiiinor” when anyone yells at you. Ya pathetic. Grow a fucking backbone and learn how to behave towards other people.

the-discourse-dumpster:

Seeing people gloat and cheer about blogs that draw fictional “child porn” being deleted is honestly making me feel sick.

Like I was sexually assaulted when I was 10 and seeing people act like drawing some random fictional 16yo having sex is as bad as what happened to me makes me feel indescribably upset.

It’s not the same. It will never be the same. What happened to me was real and horrible and has affected every aspect of my life to this day, 13 years later. Porn of fictional teens will NEVER be as bad as the trauma that I experienced, and to suggest that it is is harmful and insulting to actual CSA survivors.

I’m glad that tumblr is getting rid of blogs that hurt real life kids. Because real life kids are so much more important than fictional characters. It shouldn’t even be a fucking debate. The two can NEVER be compared. One is clearly so much more important than the other.

It’s just….sickening. It really is. To see people make this about fictional characters and fake kids. This isn’t about them, it shouldn’t be about them. It should be about the real kids that Tumblr is trying to save. Stop cheering that the star/ker tag got deleted or a blog that shipped she/ith got taken down. It isn’t what this is about and acting like it is makes you look like an inconsiderate shithead.

Care about real kids, not fictional ones.

I dont understand how people use characters and ships for coping? I see it mentioned a lot but exactly how?

shipping-isnt-morality:

I searched through my posts and realized I don’t really have a cope shipping masterpost? So here’s the main reasons I’ve heard:

Catharsis: a literally ancient tradition of using fiction to help you feel difficult emotions, like fear, anger, sadness, or guilt, without having to confront them too directly. Sharing those emotions socially can also reduce the impact and lighten the load. For people who are dealing with totally overwhelming emotions because of trauma, catharsis is a way to bleed some of it off, maybe even in fictional circumstances similar to their trauma, allowing them to talk about it and feel it when they’re not yet ready to confront it directly. Probably most angst-shipping is in this category, and it’s by no means limited to trauma victims; anyone can benefit from and even enjoy catharsis.

Narrative Therapy: more directly relevant to survivors, this is the process of shaping what happened to them into a coherent narrative, and sorting through the ambiguities and confusion. While often “angsty”, it doesn’t have to be: I can personally testify that frequently narrative therapy is just as important for dealing with and rationalizing the positive emotions I felt during trauma.

Projection: anecdotally, many people use fiction to regain a sense of power that was lost during trauma, especially sexual trauma. These fics can go a lot of different ways: they may be virtually indistinguishable from the trauma, and overlap with narrative therapy. or they may go radically different ways: for example, the victim becoming the aggressor, or alternately the aggressor being much more aggressive and violent than they were in real life. These kind of what-ifs are a natural part of trauma, and not unhealthy if they don’t consume your life or prevent you from dealing with what actually happened.

Kink: While it’s not universal by any means, sexual trauma (especially CSA) can have a significant effect on your sexuality. Rape fantasies, CSA fantasies, all variety of transgressive sexual fantasies are more common among survivors. These fantasies are common, not harmful, and eliminating them isn’t a part of recovery unless the survivor is very distressed by them. Fiction is an easy, safe way to engage in those fantasies without creating more victims or attempting anything risky in real life.

I honestly never thought I’d see a fandom purge. The days of Strikethrough and the whatnot seem like tales of war the elders tell the youngsters around the campfire and the kids think “Wow, that sounds awful … Glad we’ll never see days like those!”

And yet here they are.

… Would it be too hopeful to ask that AO3 also makes itself an art hosting site? (I know you can embed pictures into fics but obvs that’s not the same) Or like a sister site for hosting artwork? AO3 was designed so purges like this wouldn’t happen so if ppl are safe posting their fics there, art should be safe too, right? I can’t rly see the anti scourge making much headway on AO3 either, even if they opened the doors to include art. Maybe even personal journal entries too to act as “blogs.”

The best thing abt sites like dA and AO3 is that posts are static. Some assholes can’t come onto your post and “steal” it by adding unnecessary comments and rants. The only form of interacting with a post is favoriting/bookmarking, leaving kudos, and commenting. So if someone’s being a douche in the comments just block them and delete the shit they left, and it’s done. And I’ve definitely had issues where I made a post while being swept up in emotion, ppl taking me out of context, slandering me, and I decided to edit the post to better reflect my calmer feelings. But oops, it’s too late. Ppl already reblogged it so that’s how the post will be remembered on their blog. It’s such bullshit that the edits you make to your posts don’t change in the versions reblogged by other ppl. But on AO3 you can edit a fic as much as you like and it will change for everyone, bookmarking the original version won’t matter.

Tho AO3 doesn’t have a messaging system so it’d be hard to take requests since most ppl wouldn’t wanna reveal themselves via comments. I can’t even ask someone “what’s your favorite breed of cat? :)” if there’s no anon button bc anxiety is constantly kicking my ass. So I’m not sure how that would work?

But AO3 should definitely save all forms of artists from the terrible dread of purges like they do with fic artists. Tho this is coming from someone who doesn’t have the first clue on how to run a website. This is just a dream. A hopeful, foolish dream.